http://www.tiferet.co.uk en-gb tiferet.co.uk 2011-1-4T00:00:00Z tiferet.co.uk http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#83864 I enclose below the argument that I presented to a panel debate entitled Living the good life Can we dispense with God which took place at the 2010 Limmud Conference held at Warwick University Coventry over the holiday period. The panel consisted of Andrew Copson Chief Executive of the British Humanist Association Tamar Frankiel Dean of Academic Affairs and Professor of Comparative Religion at the Academy for Jewish Religion California and myselfThe proposition before us this morning is Living the good life Can we dispense with GodI am pretty certain that you can live an emotionally satisfactory life without religion if by that we mean a life which is simply about maximizing pleasure. Indeed if we are really nothing more than the result of a cosmic accident hedonism and suicide are surely the two most logical optionsBut as far as morality I would contend by its very nature that it is necessarily and intrinsically bound up in an underlying religious context.Am I suggesting that athei... 2011-1-4 17:32:47 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#72680 Not for the first time there has been much conflicting evidence purporting to either claim that the economy is on the road to recovery albeit limping along or that we are facing a socalled doubledip recession. Of course few mention the fact that this could actually be a depression but Ill leave that one for another day. However what really gets my goat is house prices or more to the point the oftused argument that the spiralling cost of property over the last 15 years or so was due to increased demand and a shortage of supply. This myth has been propagated for so long that it is seemingly hardwired into the national psyche. So lets lance the boil once and for all. House price growth had next to nothing to do with a shortage of supply and high demand. There I have said it. What drove the housing bubble was the greed and stupidity of lenders. In the previous era of sanity borrowers were restricted to loans of no more than three times individual income or two and half times joint income.... 2010-8-12 14:16:29 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#68276 Education is traditionally seen as a topdown process. Schooling is very much about children being expected to listen and learn whilst adults are there to teach and instruct. But lets try turning this idea on its head. Is there anything that adults can or perhaps even should learn from children I would propose that there is. Take my oldest nephew Louie who is now nearly 4 years of age but who right from the outset displayed a very strong and determined personality and dont we just know it For when he gets stroppy no amount of trying to placate him will make one jot of difference. In fact the more that you attempt to get him to come out of his mood the more he will simply dig his heels in. However what is most interesting is that when he is just left alone to his own devices in next to no time at all he will find something else to occupy his attention and his mood will lift. Such that anybody who would have been unaware of his prior negative mood state and walks in on him will be comple... 2010-6-18 13:05:38 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#60743 It is said that if you take a frog and place it in boiling water then it will jump straight out reacting to the instant change in water temperature and obvious threat to its life but that if it is placed in cold water which is then slowly heated up the frog will be boiled alive. Now I have absolutely no idea as to whether this is true or not neither is it my intention to encourage you to indulge in some gruesome animal experimentation in order to test it for yourself but what I am drawing your attention to is the metaphor behind what has become known as the boiling frog syndrome namely mankinds seeming inability to consciously react to the consequences of gradual but nonetheless significant changes in society some of which could be said to have been rather benign perhaps even beneficial but many others could be considered somewhat more disturbing. So for instance lets take the World Wide Web. The whole nature of work has been totally transformed through its capacity to connect us up in... 2010-3-17 16:31:57 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#57463 As one of those fortunate enough to have got a ticket to hear Tony Blair give evidence to the Iraq Inquiry which was set up by Gordon Brown to identify lessons that could be learned from the conflict I was struck far more by the preconceptions by many of those in attendance as well as the mass media in general. Most have already decided what they believe inquiry or no inquiry and so anything that doesnt conform to their own preconceived notions which are in the main negative towards Blair George Bush the rationale for the war removal of Saddam Hussein and the consequences thereof is nothing more than a sham. Indeed the whole experience was somewhat surreal. The antiwar protestors were in full force with their rhythmic and somewhat mesmerizing mantra led by their equivalent of high priest or in this case priestess shouting Tony Blair to which her congregation duly responded War Criminal. The worlds media were gathered around the entrance enticing attendees to comment on their expectati... 2010-2-1 17:59:47 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#54081 Normal 0 false false false ENGB XNONE XNONE Style Definitions table.MsoNormalTable msostylenameTable Normal msotstylerowbandsize0 msotstylecolbandsize0 msostylenoshowyes msostylepriority99 msostyleqformatyes msostyleparent m... 2009-12-7 17:38:51 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#51389 Normal 0 false false false ENGB XNONE XNONE Style Definitions table.MsoNormalTable msostylenameTable Normal msotstylerowbandsize0 msotstylecolbandsize0 msostylenoshowyes msostylepriority99 msostyleqformatyes msostyleparent msopaddingalt0cm ... 2009-10-26 17:09:41 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#22818 So another series of the Apprentice is in full flow with Sir Alan Sugar once again searching for his young prot233g233. In the process we are once more subjected to a barrage of egotistical proclamations from the 16 candidates such as I am the best salesperson in Europe and If I want something I will get it etc. all vying for the attentions of the selfmade millionaire. Though to a large extent this bravado is very much driven by the need to make good television sadly society increasingly seems to believe that material growth in and of itself is what matters irrespective of the manner and means used. As a result not surprisingly we have seen a related growth in selfishness distrust and inconsideration of other. Israel Salanter founder of the 19th Century mussar movement which saw ethical conduct and behaviour as the underpinning principle of a meritorious life both for the individual but importantly for society at large argued that we should by all means seek t... 2008-4-13 23:12:43 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#20942 It would appear that Bill Gates halo must be slipping. According to Forbes business magazine The Microsoft cofounder is now only the 3rd wealthiest man in the world with his personal fortune only having increased by a mere 2bn last year to a total of 58bn whilst investment guru Warren Buffetts personal wealth increased by 10bn over the same period to a total of 62bn. And lets not forget Carlos Slim Helu a Mexican communications magnate who pipped Mr Gates to second position and who saw his personal wealth double over the past two years. Now before you get out your handkerchief and weep for Bill Gates lets get some of these figures into perspective. According to World Bank estimates 54bn a year would eliminate starvation and malnutrition by 2015 whilst 30bn would provide a year of primary education for every child on earth source Boston.com. Sobering stuff. But the problem I have with the Forbes analysis has nothing to do with Bill Gates Warren Buffett ... 2008-3-6 15:26:15 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13619 Green in colour therapy signifies balance. It is neither one of the hotter colours like red nor one of the cooler ones like blue.Being truly balanced in body and soul is a truly magnificent feeling. Sometimes we may feel too depressed or perhaps even too silly. Green will bring us back to the centre. Green is standing barefoot on the grass an activity which helps balance body and mind.Green funnily enough is wonderful for laughter too. What is the connection between laughter and balancePart of our ability to laugh comes from not taking ourselves too seriously. We must realise that in spite of our own personal efforts ultimately our success is beyond our control....Thus we can tap into a pure level of humour. Such perception is necessary for maintaining health and balance Nechama Sarah G. NadbornyGreen is a combination of yellow optimism and blue spirituality. If we take ourselves and our problems too seriously we need the optimistic spirituality which leads to happiness of green to bal... 2007-8-13 11:16:39 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13588 Turquoise bluegreen has the refreshing quality of the sea. There is a certain newness quirkiness and individuality about this colour. You stand out if you wear turquoise.It is connected to your individuality especially in relation to the choices that you make. In this day and age its all too easy to just go with the flow and to be over affected by others opinions and moods. Turquoise is the colour of immunity. By being immune to others wishes you are free to choose what is truly best for your personal growth.Yet turquoise also brings us a sense of humility and thankfulness. Its the colour of nature in that it contains the blue of the sky and the green of the grass. It itself is the colour of the sea. Humility in its true meaning is being appreciative of your own gifts being appreciative of others gifts and being thankful for the greatest gift of all that of life itself.With turquoise you are aware of your own smallness being just a speck on this vast planet. Yet of your own greatness... 2007-8-11 22:33:10 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13547 Whereas Indigo has the quality of a meditative night sky blue is the beauty of a clear cloudless morning the very essence of clarity. It is also the colour of the ocean calm and serene. Imagine clear blue waters washing over you all your negative energies and confusions dissolve. Your body is clean your mind is clear.Blue is also good for clarity of speech a wonderful colour to help us express ourselves. If you go for an interview wear some blue. You may notice that often newsrooms in TV studios have a blue background for this reason.Blue is also THE colour for dealing with stress the prime colour to calm your anger and your mind. If you want to relax just think of your favourite shade of light or royal blue.Whereas red is the energetic orange the emotional and yellow the mental blue is our first step to the spiritual. Any colour with blue in it has a spiritual air. Blue yonder. Blue lifts our eyes up towards the sky our souls up toward heaven. Thus it is a good colour too for judg... 2007-8-10 09:08:21 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13526 Indigo BlueViolet is the vault of heaven in a moonless light Pauline WillsIndigo is insight the visionary nature. Hold on to your vision and others will follow....Bring your dreams down to earth. Philippa MerrivaleIndigo is our mission in life.....our arrow shot into the blue yonder.....up up and away....Indigo is connected to the night. Andy Baggott tells us that its useful in the treatment of insomnia. Indigo is connected to our dreams to our highest aspirations. By combining the relaxing properties of blue and the intuition that is violet indigo becomes a wonderful colour for meditation especially in the focus of guiding us toward our wildest dreams.Indigo leads us to have faith in our own unique gifts and toward the expression of our special talents. With indigo we may create our own miracles by discovering and realising our lifemission.Marvin Shaw 2007-8-9 11:25:01 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13508 Emotionally violet teaches us to love our feelings and to accept them as part of ourselves Pauline Wills.When things start going wrong for us we often feel negative sad angry depressed or down. Even despair.Violet imagine the sight and scent of beautiful lavender fields is the most powerful colour for dealing with the ups and downs of life which often materialise as negative feelings.Violet is an equal mixture of the physical red and the spiritual blue. Violet is about trust in both. Its about trusting the breath which means valuing and respecting the fact that we have been given the precious gift of life. Trusting in ourselves. Trusting in our intuition to help guide us. Trusting in the spiritual.When you think or feel you are falling or taking a downturn in your life try the following. Sit upright in a chair well supported and balanced in correct and relaxed posture. Imagine breathing in violet and breathing out yellow its complimentary colour. This will help to stabilize and boost y... 2007-8-8 11:36:07 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13493 Magenta is the colour which prompts a person to make changes so that they can evolve as humanbeings Pauline WillsThe difference between humanbeings and animals is that humans have a conscience and a soul. Magenta is the highest on our 12 colour spectrum just as a humans qualities make him or her the highest species in this world. An animal will normally eat if he is hungry. A humanbeing may choose to share his or her food with another or even to fast.Magenta symbolises us taking the needs of other human beings into consideration. Thus its the key colour to enhance relationships. Its the colour for having compassion for another human being. Its a colour of oneness and forgiveness. Its a colour of unconditional love and indeed often looks like a deep shade of pink a colour often associated with love.Magenta is about being appropriate in each moment loving the small things Philippa Merrivale.In other words taking the time to appreciate each temporary moment and remembering every good i... 2007-8-7 19:17:16 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13459 Red the colour of our lifeblood is the colour of energy and action. Whenever were feeling tired lethargic or listless red is the colour to get us going. Interestingly although red is the stop at traffic lights its precisely at that moment that were ready to explode into action and get goingYet red is also a colour to ground us to bring us back to the physical to our bodies to the earth. The word for red in Hebrew is adom which is also the name of the first physical being on earth Adam whilst the root of the word adom is connected to blood and earth.Nonetheless too much red can make us too physical and sometimes angry so we must use it sparingly or in combination with a colour such as green its complementary or turquoise in order to weaken its potency whilst still maximising its energising effects.Marvin Shaw 2007-8-6 16:07:03 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13448 Coral is a combination of both the male and female energies and creates with it a wholeness and harmony Pauline Wills.This is one reason its such a good colour for communication bringing together the natural differences between male and female and creating harmony both with the other and ourselves and the male and female WITHIN ourselves.Coral RedOrange is also a wonderful colour if we ever experience grief shock or trauma.There are occasions when shock or trauma have been very deeply experienced and where the orange ray is too direct to contemplate. In such a situation the coral may provide a gentler energy with which to comfort it. Philippa Merrivale.Whereas orange is connected to our emotions red is pure physical energy. The redorange combination allows our deepest emotions to be released and expressed safely. Marvin Shaw 2007-8-5 23:13:19 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13414 Orange is a bright joyous colour. It contains and combines the positive thinking of yellow and the moving on with energy of red.It is also connected to sight and to the way we can choose to look at things. It is interesting that carrots which are orange are said to be good for ones eyesight.Orange is therefore a good colour for helping us accept our past to see the joy in our past too. If we are too stuck in a perceived negative past orange can bring its red energy and yellow optimism to give us a more positive viewpoint. Orange is our protection from a negative memory in our past.....an emotional comforter.Its connected to our creativity too. Its an offbeat and quirky colour. Looking at our past in a creative way can enable us to learn and grow from our experiences and thus to accept them more easily.Orange is a colour of fun. Looking at our lives creatively creates numerous opportunities for funMarvin Shaw 2007-8-4 22:57:55 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13371 We are aware that gold is something valuable and special. Gold standard is the best standard. Gold has the highest monetary value.Winning a gold medal in the Olympics signifies the best of the best. The colour gold is a mixture of yellow and orange and incorporates the positive thinking of yellow with the joy that is orange. If we need a colour to motivate us then gold is that colour.According to colour therapist Pauline Wills gold is the colour of wisdom truth and knowledge. It combines the learning of yellow with the creativityand correct vision of orange.With gold we have selfesteem. With gold we have confidence we can walk our walk.Should you ever feel stuck or depressed imagine being surrounded by a luminous gold energy whizzing around the perimeter of your body. Then go out and walk preferably in a natural setting. Lift your head slightly and you will start to feel uplifted. You will begin to appreciate the full value of your life which is worth more than a million dollars.Marv... 2007-8-3 09:22:43 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13342 When the sun comes up and daytime arrives it is as though were being offered a new start in life. The darkness of night has dispelled and the light of the sun signifies a brand new day. Yellow is the colour of optimism and positive thinking.It is a great colour too to help us study. When we shine a light on an object or a piece of writing it makes them clearer. So yellow is an excellent colour for clear thinking and thus as an aid for timemanagement too.Whereas yellowgreen is a good colour for detoxification mint for example is wonderful when we are feeling sick yellow is better used for healing the mind.Whenever we are thinking in a negative fashion imagining a brilliant yellow light filtering into our brain can help to lift and lighten our thoughts.When we are thinking in a more positive way our bodies feel better too and this promotes healing.Marvin Shaw 2007-8-2 08:56:47 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13311 When we think of the colour green we often think of grass openspaces and freedom. Yellow on the other hand denotes the optimism of a beautiful bright sunny day. YellowGreen olive or lime green is often connected to new life rebirth freedom and optimism.As colour therapist Philippa Merivale says olive is the colour of the new leaf unfolding. It is the colour of the Spring the colour that ultimately says to us that the death of winter was just a step before new life and rebirth.If the fear of death is deep down the root of all our fears then yellowgreen becomes the ultimate antidote to fear.Marvin Shaw 2007-8-1 09:07:36 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13282 Laughing at the false you Acting out the fulfilled youIf you ask people what they really want in life then its likely that at the very essence of their desires will be achieving happiness. Ask them however how they define happiness and youll most likely receive a rather wideranging array of responses. In the final step of 12 on the road to fulfilment youll learn about the very essence of happiness and how to bring it into your life discovering the importance of balance. Wonderful food is great but in moderation. Sleep is important and necessary in moderation. Sexual relations are marvellous and fulfilling in moderation. Perhaps most importantly youll learn how to laugh to see the funny side of life. To understand that you cant control what happens to you that much and that unpredictability and change can actually be refreshing and fun.And finally youll learn how to act as if youre happy try smiling now and how that can actually make you happyMarvin Shaw 2007-7-31 10:15:47 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13252 Personal Growth Choosing the ingredients and eating with gratitude Compared to previous generations we are relatively wealthy. Yet we may still feel unsuccessful in our lives especially when comparing ourselves to others.So first of all we need to be thankful for what we HAVE got whether this be health friends family or just the gift of nature or life itself.Real success is found within personal growth i.e. becoming a better person. This depends on our starting point our own efforts and our particular talents. Yoga has the right idea. In that particular discipline we measure ourselves against our previous performance not against others.Giving charity is a wonderful sign of prosperity. Not only is it a good thing for the recipient. It is also good for the giver as giving even a small amount of charity on a regular basis transforms you into a more charitable and righteous person. This act also tells your unconscious mind that you are wealthy as you have the financial means t... 2007-7-30 11:09:45 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13230 Anger management Judging favourably You may not think that you get angry and I hope you dont but did you know that frustration annoyance angst and even boredom can all be expressions of anger.Anger is clearly not good for our health yet suppressing our anger and other emotions can lead to depression. Our aim must therefore be to let out any anger in a safe and harmless manner and then to look at our world and our life situation in more creative and positive ways.Once we realise how bad anger is for us and the fact that we may have either overt or hidden anger then we can start to do something about it.In step ten of 12 on the road to fulfilment you will discover practical physical ways to release your anger safely. Jogging or even screaming out our rustrations in a secluded space are just two of many options.Indeed if certain situations seem to repeat themselves in our lives there is perhaps a message for us to learn and by accepting this message as a teacher our anger can b... 2007-7-29 18:11:07 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13209 Sleeping your way towards mission accomplished Along with low selfesteem stress is probably one of the most prevalent problems of our generation. In this I want it now culture its all too easy to get stressed out. For example what with multichannel television the growth of the internet and many other forms of everincreasing technological advancements it is perhaps not surprising that we are suffering this rather modern disease we call information overload. Its as though weve forgotten the simple pleasures and most important things in life.In step nine of 12 on the road to fulfilment you need to learn how to relax your body progressive relaxation and to calm your mind meditation. Part of this process involves focusing on your lifemission i.e. determining what it is you really want from life. This takes some work but is one of the most rewarding and essential endeavours you can do in order to live a life of minor miracles.A relaxed body a calm mind and knowing who you really are a... 2007-7-28 23:00:54 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13144 Bouncing back intuitively through the miracle of breath There are times in our lives when we all feel down. In fact thats the nature of life itself. Ups and downs. And if truth be told without thedowns we wouldnt really appreciate the ups so much.Adversity can indeed be our best teacher it often points to a lack in our lives. If for example we are without a fulfilling job or a loving partner and we resulting feel bad then at least we become aware of what we need in our lives. Likewise if we regularly feel angry or frustrated it may well be that we need to work on these specific character traits as a means to unravelling the root causes of our unease. If we see our problems as challenges they can actually be transformed into positive goals. Also if we learn to listen to and respect our feelings we allow them to gradually evolve and change.In step eight of 12 on the road to fulfilment we need to learn good posture and breathing along with the skills to develop faith and trust in... 2007-7-27 09:44:18 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13119 Touching joy temporary moments and permanent relationships Although we are all unique with very own talents skills and abilities none of us are perfect. In fact we are not meant to be perfect. Indeed perhaps ironically it is through our imperfections that we are able to contribute to the environments within in which we live and thereby help perfect the world a process known as Tikkun Olam. To do this we need help. We cant do it all by ourselves. Yet by combining our talents skills and abilities with those of others we can achieve wonders. Hospitals for example could not exist without doctors to heal nurses to nurse cleaners to clean even builders to build...Relationships make the world go round. On a more personal level two people who share love care and give to each other can often feel more complete than a single person. A good friendship marriage or relationship is worth its weight in gold.Everyday we relate to each other on various levels. Good relationship skills are inv... 2007-7-26 12:19:30 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13108 Forgiveness The first action towards goal achievement When we have positive worthwhile and appealing goals in our lives and we take action towards them we not only feel good and find ourselves in an upbeat frame of mind but most importantly we naturally feel drawn to taking action to achieve them. There are simple yet powerful practical exercises we can do to in order to show us what we truly deeply need and desire. One things for sure our motivation increases once we have goals we really want. Even if at some point we decide to reassess or even change our goals it really doesnt matter. During step six of 12 on the road to fulfilment what is important is that we have meaningful goals and that we are taking steps to achieve them. This is what makes us feel worthwhile productive and happy humanbeings. It follows that once we achieve a particular goal we benefit by setting a new one.Our goals can and should also be spiritual and characterbuilding. When we feel that we are on ... 2007-7-25 23:07:15 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#13071 Are you really listening or are you too wrapped up in your own emotions One of the most powerful secrets of communicating with others is simply to listen to them. By learning to truly listen to another humanbeing and to feel a little of what they are feeling will gradually lead to a deeper more responsive and ultimately more fulfilling level of communication for you both. To be able to truly listen to others is a healing action. Listening to others takes the focus off you and your problems and this makes you feel more valuable and less stressed.However it is also important to communicate with yourself. So for a change why not try turning off the IPod the mobile and even the television and start listening to your own inner voice Note what you hear and feel. And then ask yourself what are you going to do about itIn step five of 12 on the road to fulfilment you need to start letting go of any negative thoughts and feelings but in a safe and emotionally beneficial constructive manner. D... 2007-7-24 23:35:35 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#12986 Accepting your past by seeing the good Low selfesteem is possibly the biggest problem of this generation. It can show itself in people feeling small and worthless or conversely in people behaving arrogantly and trying to dominate others in an attempt for them to feel better about themselves. Yet selfesteem is just selfimage the way in which we see ourselves. If we look at our past and we think it was full of missed opportunities and empty moments then we are simply reinforcing a preexisting negative selfimage. However if we choose to see our past as us doing the best we could with whatever character imperfections we then had if we see our past as something we can learn and grow from a teacher to guide us as to what character traits we need to improve if we see ourselves as genuinely worthy important and with our own unique job in life then our selfesteem rises.The truth is that we are all unique. There is no one on this earth exactly like us. Step four of 12 on the road ... 2007-7-23 11:17:16 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#12967 Walking your walk The holistic way to enhance selfesteem The biggest enemy of motivation is depression. To be depressed is to be stuck in a rut. Sometimes so badly that you are not able to physically move.When you feel that you are progressing in the right direction towards a satisfying and fulfilling goal you feel motivated.The secret to escaping depression is twofold. Firstly one can read or study an uplifting book concept or idea. This can transform inspire and motivate you to move forward positively in your own life. Secondly one can move your body and walk especially in a pleasant or natural environment. But if truth be told any walking dance natural movement or exercise can promote health and wellbeing. When you are no longer in the same physical space of your depression and you get your body walking and moving your stuckness goes and your movement brings on positive feelings and natural inspiration and motivation.Step three of 12 on the road to fulfilment is to begin to... 2007-7-22 21:19:13 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#12931 Positive thinking...positive values...positive beliefs Think good and it will be good. Well I dont know about you but this sounds just too good to be true and yet this maxim is easy to prove. The stress in our lives is often caused not by an actual event but by the THOUGHT of something bad happening an event which in fact often never takes place or at least is not as bad as we fear.The fact is that we often cant control or forecast future situations but we CAN learn to control our own thoughts. Whenever we think of something bad or unhappy that may happen we start to worry feel tense nervous stressed or unhappy.However now yes right now I want you to think of something really lovely. Something real e.g. like a gorgeous baby or person that you love. Or else something or some place that youd love to be. Lying on a beautiful beach perhaps in ideal temperatures and glorious and serene surroundings. Maybe a smile appears on your face as your body gradually feels calm and relaxed.... 2007-7-21 23:34:32 http://www.tiferet.co.uk/page11.htm#12891 Creating yourself anew through speech It has been said that our biggest fear is not death or even pain but that of speaking in public Could this possibly be true On examination we can begin to understand what this fear of Public Speaking is really about. Our prime worry is of receiving a bad or negative reaction. What if we dont get applause What if we foul up What will people say about us What DOES their reaction say about us as a person What embarrassmentI suggest that our deepest fear is that nobody really loves us. For when someone truly loves us like a loving and caring parent they dont stop loving us when we fail. Unfortunately we dont always have the supportive parents friends or audience that give us the unconditional love that we all need.Our first step of 12 therefore on the road to fulfilment is to give ourselves that love that we crave. By learning to speak words of love and care to both ourselves and others we become a person filled with love. When we truly love ou... 2007-7-20 16:11:44