So another series of the Apprentice is in full flow with Sir Alan Sugar once again searching for his young protégé. In the process we are, once more, subjected to a barrage of egotistical proclamations from the 16 candidates, such as “I am the best salesperson in Europe” and “If I want something I will get it” etc. all vying for the attentions of the ‘self-made’ millionaire. Though to a large extent this bravado is very much driven by the need to make good television, sadly society increasingly seems to believe that material growth in and of itself is what matters, irrespective of the manner and means used. As a result, not surprisingly, we have seen a related growth in selfishness, distrust, and inconsideration of other.

Israel Salanter, founder of the 19^th Century mussar movement, which saw ethical conduct and behaviour as the underpinning principle of a meritorious life, both for the individual, but importantly for society at large, argued that we should by all means seek to promote ourselves, but not if it means demoting the validity of another.

The Kabbalah recognizes that we do indeed have animalistic drives and passions, which left to their own devices will lead to gratuitous expressions of self-interest, but argues that these are located in the lower-order soul, known as the Nefesh HaBehamit. However, this drive is not, in and of itself, bad for it creates the drive to life, without which we would not bother getting out of bed in the morning, nor would we eat, drink or play, but this is not, or at least should not be, the overriding force that determines how we live our lives.

The Nefesh Elokit, by contrast, is the higher-order, Divine soul, which gives us a sense of purpose, the spiritual connection to the Ultimate Reality, an acceptance of meaning beyond mere self. The challenge in life, indeed the whole basis of free will, is the ongoing battle to determine who is in control. An often used analogy is between that of a horse (Nefesh HaBehamit) and rider (Nefesh Elokit). The Kabbalah suggests that the difference in essence is between selfishness, and selflessness. Whilst the former is expressed often through surface-level emotive states, i.e. anger, jealousy, lust and greed, the latter is expressed through being other-centred, i.e. love, compassion, sensitivity, appreciation etc.    

Our goal in life is to seek to elevate the holy above the profane, to simply to become outward-focused rather than self-centred. This is something Sir Alan’s young upstarts would do well to consider.        

It would appear that Bill Gates' halo must be slipping. According to Forbes business magazine, The Microsoft co-founder is now only the 3^rd wealthiest man in the world with his personal fortune only having increased by a mere $2bn last year to a total of $58bn, whilst investment guru Warren Buffett’s personal wealth increased by $10bn over the same period to a total of $62bn. And let’s not forget Carlos Slim Helu, a Mexican communications magnate who pipped Mr Gates to second position and who saw his personal wealth double over the past two years.

Now before you get out your handkerchief and weep for Bill Gates let’s get some of these figures into perspective. According to World Bank estimates, $54bn a year would eliminate starvation and malnutrition by 2015, whilst $30bn would provide a year of primary education for every child on earth (source: Boston.com).

Sobering stuff.

But, the problem I have with the Forbes analysis has nothing to do with Bill Gates, Warren Buffett or Carlos Slim Helu - at least not directly, but has everything to do with definition. Now I don’t for one minute expect a business-orientated magazine, to characterize ‘wealth’ as relating to anything other than financial accumulation, but I do think that they - and western society in general - are very much wide of the mark.

By contrast, The Talmud suggests that the one who is wealthy is the one who is happy with his lot (Talmud Avot 4:1), which effectively means that true wealth is not so much about what you own materially, but rather more about appreciating and accepting your blessings, irrespective of your financial position.

Of course, money has the potential to bring tremendous benefit to the world around us, particularly if it is used to create opportunities for others rather than just seen as a means of accumulation. But, how many so-called ‘wealthy’ people are content with what they have, such as their nearest and dearest, or focus on the contribution they can make to the world around them?

Take the porn king Paul Raymond who died this week.

In his lifetime he amassed a £650mn fortune, but died alone as a virtual recluse, his marriage having collapsed because of his infidelity, he was estranged from his son, whose own children subsist on benefits, and had never recovered from death of his daughter from a drugs overdose 17 years ago.

Can Mr Raymond really be said to have died 'wealthy'?

Psychiatrist and Rabbi, Abraham Twerski recounts an old story of an old beggar who was given a magic purse, which contained a single dollar, and when he removed the dollar, another dollar would take its place. Three days later he was found dead, lying on a heap of dollars.

The moral of the story being that unless a person learns to appreciate with what they have, they will never have enough and most certainly cannot be classed as ‘wealthy’.

Green in colour therapy signifies balance. It is neither one of the hotter 

colours like red nor one of the cooler ones like blue.

Being truly balanced in body and soul is a truly magnificent feeling. 



Sometimes we may feel too depressed or perhaps even too silly. Green 

will bring us back to the centre. Green is standing barefoot on the grass, 

an activity which helps balance body and mind.

Green funnily enough, is wonderful for laughter, too. What is the connection 

between laughter and balance?

'Part of our ability to laugh comes from not taking ourselves too seriously. 

We must realise that in spite of our own personal efforts, ultimately our 

success is beyond our control....Thus we can tap into a pure level of 

humour. Such perception is necessary for maintaining health and 

balance' Nechama Sarah G. Nadborny

Green is a combination of yellow (optimism) and blue (spirituality). If we 

take ourselves and our problems too seriously, we need the optimistic 

spirituality (which leads to happiness) of green to balance us - enabling 

us to laugh at ourselves.

Then, we can use the green energy which says 'go and grow' to move 

forward without doubt - decisively. In other words doing our best with 

confidence (and laughter!) knowing that the result is not always in our hands.

Turquoise (blue-green) has the refreshing quality of the sea. There is a 

certain newness, quirkiness and individuality about this colour. You 

stand out if you wear turquoise.

It is connected to your individuality - especially in relation to the choices 

that you make. In this day and age, it's all too easy to just go with the 

flow and to be over affected by other's opinions and moods. Turquoise 

is the colour of immunity. By being immune to other's wishes, you are 

free to choose what is truly best for your personal growth.

Yet, turquoise also brings us a sense of humility and thankfulness. It's 

the colour of nature in that it contains the blue of the sky and the green 

of the grass. It, itself, is the colour of the sea. Humility, in its true 

meaning, is being appreciative of your own gifts, being appreciative of 

other's gifts and being thankful for the greatest gift of all - that of life 

itself.

With turquoise, you are aware of your own smallness, being just a 

speck on this vast planet. Yet of your own greatness too - knowing 

that you can express your own individuality and make a difference. 

You are worth more than a million dollars!

Whereas Indigo has the quality of a meditative night sky, blue is 

the beauty of a clear cloudless morning - the very essence of 

clarity. It is also the colour of the ocean, calm and serene. 

Imagine clear blue waters washing over you - all your negative 

energies and confusions dissolve. Your body is clean, your 

mind is clear.

Blue is also good for clarity of speech - a wonderful colour to 

help us express ourselves. If you go for an interview, wear 

some blue. You may notice that often newsrooms in TV 

studios have a blue background for this reason.

Blue is also THE colour for dealing with stress, the prime 

colour to calm your anger and your mind. If you want to 

relax, just think of your favourite shade of light or royal blue.

Whereas red is the energetic, orange the emotional and 

yellow the mental - blue is our first step to the spiritual. 

Any colour with blue in it has a spiritual air. Blue yonder. 

Blue lifts our eyes up towards the sky, our souls up 

toward heaven.

'Indigo (Blue-Violet) is the vault of heaven in a moonless light' 

Pauline Wills

'Indigo is insight, the visionary nature. Hold on to your vision 

and others will follow....Bring your dreams down to earth.' 

Philippa Merrivale

Indigo is our mission in life.....our arrow shot into the blue 

yonder.....up, up and away....

Indigo is connected to the night. Andy Baggott tells us that it's 

useful in the treatment of insomnia. Indigo is connected to our 

dreams, to our highest aspirations. By combining the relaxing 

properties of blue and the intuition that is violet, indigo becomes 

a wonderful colour for meditation, especially in the focus of 

guiding us toward our wildest dreams.

Indigo leads us to have faith in our own unique gifts and toward 

the expression of our special talents. With indigo, we may create 

our own miracles by discovering and realising our life-mission.

'Emotionally violet teaches us to love our feelings and to accept 

them as part of ourselves' Pauline Wills.

When things start going wrong for us, we often feel negative, sad, 

angry, depressed or down. Even despair.

Violet (imagine the sight and scent of beautiful lavender fields) is 

the most powerful colour for dealing with the ups and downs of life

- which often materialise as negative feelings.

Violet is an equal mixture of the physical (red) and the spiritual 

(blue). Violet is about trust in both. It's about trusting the breath, 

which means valuing and respecting the fact that we have been 

given the precious gift of life. Trusting in ourselves. Trusting in 

our intuition to help guide us. Trusting in the spiritual.

When you think or feel you are falling or taking a down-turn in 

your life, try the following. Sit upright in a chair, well supported 

and balanced, in correct and relaxed posture. Imagine breathing 

in violet and breathing out yellow its complimentary colour. This 

will help to stabilize and boost your energies.

Lavender (in the same family as violet) is a wonderful herb and 

aromatherapy oil to make you feel good too!

'Magenta is the colour which prompts a person to make changes
so that they can evolve as human-beings' Pauline Wills

The difference between human-beings and animals is that humans 

have a conscience and a soul. Magenta is the highest on our 12 

colour spectrum just as a human's qualities make him or her the 

highest species in this world. An animal will normally eat if he is 

hungry. A human-being may choose to share his or her food with 

another - or even to fast.

Magenta symbolises us taking the needs of other human beings 

into consideration. Thus it's the key colour to enhance relationships. 

It's the colour for having compassion for another human being. It's a 

colour of oneness and forgiveness. It's a colour of unconditional love 

and indeed often looks like a deep shade of pink - a colour often 

associated with love.

'Magenta is about being appropriate in each moment, loving the small 

things' Philippa Merrivale.

In other words - taking the time to appreciate each temporary moment 

and remembering every good in our precious lives. Watching the sun 

set in a blazing magenta sky over the sea at the end of a hot summer's 

day.......

Red, the colour of our life-blood is the colour of energy and action. 

Whenever we're feeling tired, lethargic or listless - red is the colour 

to get us going. Interestingly, although red is the 'stop' at traffic lights 

- it's precisely at that moment that we're ready to explode into action 

and get going!

Yet red is also a colour to ground us - to bring us back to the physical, 

to our bodies, to the earth. The word for red, in Hebrew, is 'adom' which 

is also the name of the first physical being on earth (Adam) whilst the 

root of the word 'adom' is connected to blood and earth.

Nonetheless, too much red can make us too physical and sometimes 

angry so we must use it sparingly or in combination with a colour such 

as green (it’s complementary) or turquoise in order to weaken its 

potency whilst still maximising its energising effects.

'Coral is a combination of both the male and female energies 

and creates with it a wholeness and harmony' Pauline Wills.

This is one reason it's such a good colour for communication, 

bringing together the natural differences between male and female, 

and creating harmony both with the other and ourselves and the 

male and female WITHIN ourselves.

Coral (Red-Orange) is also a wonderful colour if we ever experience 

grief, shock or trauma.

'There are occasions when shock or trauma have been very deeply 

experienced and where the orange ray is too direct to contemplate. 

In such a situation, the coral may provide a gentler energy with 

which to comfort it.’ Philippa Merrivale.

Whereas orange is connected to our emotions, red is pure physical 

energy. The red-orange combination allows our deepest emotions to 

be released and expressed safely. 

Orange is a bright, joyous colour. It contains and combines the 

positive thinking of yellow and the 'moving on with energy' of red.

It is also connected to sight and to the way we can choose to 

look at things. It is interesting that carrots (which are orange) 

are said to be good for one's eyesight.

Orange is, therefore, a good colour for helping us accept our past

 - to see the joy in our past, too. If we are too stuck in a perceived 

negative past, orange can bring its (red) energy and (yellow) 

optimism to give us a more positive viewpoint. Orange is our 

protection from a negative memory in our past.....an emotional 

comforter.

It's connected to our creativity too. It's an off-beat and quirky colour. 

Looking at our past in a creative way can enable us to learn and 

grow from our experiences and thus to accept them more easily.

Orange is a colour of fun. Looking at our lives creatively creates 

numerous opportunities for fun!

We are aware that gold is something valuable and special. Gold 

standard is the best standard. Gold has the highest monetary value.

Winning a gold medal in the Olympics signifies the best of the best. 

The colour gold is a mixture of yellow and orange and incorporates 

the positive thinking of yellow with the joy that is orange. If we need 

a colour to motivate us, then gold is that colour.

According to colour therapist Pauline Wills, gold is the colour of wisdom, 

truth and knowledge. It combines the learning of yellow with the creativity

and correct vision of orange.

With gold we have self-esteem. With gold, we have confidence - we 

can walk our walk.

Should you ever feel stuck or depressed, imagine being surrounded 

by a luminous gold energy whizzing around the perimeter of your body. 

Then, go out and walk, preferably in a natural setting. Lift your head 

slightly and you will start to feel uplifted. You will begin to appreciate 

the full value of your life - which is worth more than a million dollars.

When the sun comes up and daytime arrives, it is as though we're 

being offered a new start in life. The darkness of night has dispelled 

and the light of the sun signifies a brand new day. Yellow is the 

colour of optimism and positive thinking.

It is a great colour, too, to help us study. When we shine a light on 

an object or a piece of writing, it makes them clearer. So yellow is 

an excellent colour for clear thinking - and thus as an aid for 

time-management too.

Whereas yellow-green is a good colour for detoxification (mint, for 

example, is wonderful when we are feeling sick) yellow is better 

used for healing the mind.

Whenever we are thinking in a negative fashion - imagining a 

brilliant yellow light filtering into our brain can help to lift and 

lighten our thoughts.

When we are thinking in a more positive way, our bodies feel 

better too - and this promotes healing.

When we think of the colour green, we often think of grass, open-spaces 

and freedom. Yellow, on the other hand, denotes the optimism of a 

beautiful bright sunny day. 

Yellow-Green (olive or lime green) is often connected to new life, re-birth, 

freedom and optimism.

As colour therapist Philippa Merivale says ‘olive is the colour of the new leaf 

unfolding’. It is the colour of the Spring, the colour that ultimately says to us 

that the death of winter was just a step before new life and re-birth.

If the fear of death is, deep down, the root of all our fears, then yellow-green 

becomes the ultimate antidote to fear.

Laughing at the false you - Acting out the fulfilled you

If you ask people what they really want in life, then it's likely that at the
very essence of their desires will be achieving happiness. Ask them,
however, how they define happiness and you'll, most likely, receive a rather
wide-ranging array of responses.

In the final step (of 12) on the road to fulfilment you’ll learn about the 

very essence of happiness and how to bring it into your life, 

discovering the importance of balance. Wonderful food is great, but 

in moderation. Sleep is important and necessary, in moderation. 

Sexual relations are marvellous and fulfilling, in moderation. 

Perhaps, most importantly, you'll learn how to laugh, to see the 

funny side of life. To understand that you can't control what happens 

to you that much and that unpredictability and change can actually be 

refreshing and fun.

And finally, you’ll learn how to 'act' as if you’re happy (try smiling, now!) 

and how that can actually make you happy!

Personal Growth - Choosing the ingredients and eating with gratitude

Compared to previous generations, we are relatively wealthy. Yet we may 

still feel 'unsuccessful' in our lives - especially when comparing ourselves 

to others.

So first of all we need to be thankful for what we HAVE got, whether this 

be health, friends, family or just the gift of nature or life itself.

Real success is found within personal growth, i.e. becoming a better person. 

This depends on our starting point, our own efforts and our particular talents. 

Yoga has the right idea. In that particular discipline, we measure ourselves 

against our previous performance - not against others.

Giving charity is a wonderful sign of prosperity. Not only is it a good 

thing for the recipient. It is also good for the giver - as giving even a small 

amount of charity on a regular basis transforms you into a more charitable 

and righteous person. This act also tells your unconscious mind that you 

are wealthy, as you have the financial means to give to another. This type 

of 'prosperity thinking' is one of the first steps to prosperity.

In the penultimate step (of 12) on the road to fulfilment, you’ll learn that 

prosperity is good as long as it's used for the good. Deciding what you 

really need in your life is also important. 



Getting rid of excess weight or possessions can allow new things to 

come into your life.

By making your own choices about your real needs will result in your 

immunity from other peoples’ agendas, as well as being free from the 

prevalent societal view and somewhat distorted  description of success.

Anger management - Judging favourably

You may not think that you get angry - and I hope you don't! - but did you 

know that frustration, annoyance, angst and even boredom can all be 

expressions of anger.

Anger is clearly not good for our health, yet suppressing our anger (and 

other emotions) can lead to depression. Our aim must therefore be to let out 

any anger in a safe and harmless manner - and then to look at our world and 

our life situation in more creative and positive ways.

Once we realise how bad anger is for us and the fact that we may have either 

overt or hidden anger, then we can start to do something about it.

In step ten (of 12) on the road to fulfilment, you will discover practical physical

 ways to release your anger safely. Jogging or even screaming out our 

rustrations in a secluded space are just two of many options.

Indeed, if certain situations seem to repeat themselves in our lives, there is, 

perhaps, a message for us to learn and by accepting this message as a teacher 

our anger can begin to subside as we look at other possible ways to confront 

(gently!) our situation. By doing so we'll also learn to judge others - and ourselves 

- favourably. The effects on our health and general well-being will be palpable.

Sleeping your way towards "mission accomplished"

Along with low self-esteem, stress is probably one of the most prevalent 

problems of our generation. In this 'I want it now' culture, it's all too 

easy to get stressed out. For example, what with multi-channel television, 

the growth of the internet and many other forms of ever-increasing 

technological advancements, it is perhaps not surprising that we are 

suffering this rather modern disease we call ‘information overload’. 

It's as though we've forgotten the simple pleasures and most important 

things in life.

In step nine (of 12) on the road to fulfilment, you need to learn how to 

relax your body (progressive relaxation) and to calm your mind (meditation). 

Part of this process involves focusing on your life-mission i.e. determining 

what it is you really want from life. This takes some work, but is one of the 

most rewarding and essential endeavours you can do in order to live a life of 

minor miracles.

A relaxed body, a calm mind, and knowing who you really are and what truly 

matters - is a most wonderful antidote to stressful living.

Bouncing back intuitively through the miracle of breath

There are times in our lives when we all feel down. In fact, that's the 

nature of life itself. Ups and downs. And if truth be told, without the

downs we wouldn't really appreciate the ups so much.

Adversity can indeed be our best teacher - it often points to a lack in 

our lives. If, for example, we are without a (fulfilling) job or a (loving) 

partner and we resulting feel bad - then at least we become aware of what 

we need in our lives. Likewise, if we regularly feel angry or frustrated, it may 

well be that we need to work on these specific character traits as a means 

to unravelling the root causes of our unease. 

If we see our problems as challenges, they can actually be transformed into 

positive goals. Also, if we learn to listen to and respect our feelings, we allow 

them to gradually evolve and change.

In step eight (of 12) on the road to fulfilment we need to learn good posture 

and breathing along with the skills to develop faith and trust in our own basic 

goodness. This naturally improves our in-born intuition. Answers appear more 

readily and our adversity becomes yesterday's teacher.

Touching joy - temporary moments and permanent relationships

Although we are all unique with very own talents, skills and abilities, 

none of us are perfect. In fact, we are not meant to be perfect. Indeed, 

perhaps ironically, it is through our imperfections that we are able to 

contribute to the environments within in which we live and thereby help 

perfect the world – a process known as ‘Tikkun Olam’.  

To do this, we need help. We can't do it all by ourselves. Yet by 

combining our talents, skills and abilities with those of others, we can 

achieve wonders. Hospitals, for example, could not exist without doctors 

to heal, nurses to nurse, cleaners to clean, even builders to build...

Relationships make the world go round. On a more personal level, two 

people who share, love, care and give to each other can often feel more 

complete than a single person. A good friendship, marriage or relationship 

is worth its weight in gold.

Everyday we relate to each other on various levels. Good relationship skills 

are invaluable. In step seven (of 12) on the road to fulfilment we learn to have 

compassion for others and to feel, share and give love to those around us 

whilst remembering and focusing on the good they have done.

We also have an important relationship with ourselves. By being easier on 

ourselves, we learn to love ourselves more. This makes it easier to relate 

better to our fellow humans in our goal to make the world a better place.

Forgiveness - The first action towards goal achievement

When we have positive, worthwhile and appealing goals in our lives and 

we take action towards them, we not only feel good and find ourselves in 

an upbeat frame of mind, but most importantly, we naturally feel drawn to 

taking action to achieve them. 

There are simple, yet powerful, practical exercises we can do to in order to 

show us what we truly deeply need and desire. One thing’s for sure - our 

motivation increases, once we have goals we really want.   

Even if, at some point, we decide to re-assess or even change our goals - it 

really doesn't matter. During step six (of 12) on the road to fulfilment what is 

important is that we have meaningful goals and that we are taking steps to 

achieve them. This is what makes us feel worthwhile, productive and happy 

human-beings. It follows that once we achieve a particular goal - we benefit 

by setting a new one.

Our goals can (and should) also be spiritual and character-building. When 

we feel that we are on the path to becoming a better person, we naturally feel 

good.

Having the courage to admit past mistakes and to regret and resolve not to 

repeat them is a most wonderful character-building goal, which can only lead 

to us becoming more fulfilled.

Are you really listening or are you too wrapped up in your own emotions? 

One of the most powerful secrets of communicating with others is simply to listen 

to them. By learning to truly listen to another human-being and to feel a little of what 

they are feeling will gradually lead to a deeper, more responsive, and ultimately more 

fulfilling level of communication for you both.   

To be able to truly listen to others is a healing action. Listening to others takes the 

focus off you and your problems - and this makes you feel more valuable and less 

stressed.

However, it is also important to communicate with yourself. 

So for a change, why not try turning off the I-Pod, the mobile and even the television 

and start listening to your own inner voice? 

Note what you hear and feel. 

And then ask yourself what are you going to do about it?

In step five (of 12) on the road to fulfilment, you need to start letting go of any 

negative thoughts and feelings, but in a safe and emotionally beneficial, constructive 

manner. 

Do you remember having a good cry in the past that seemed to wash away all your 

angst and made you feel so much better?

Once these emotions have been released and your thoughts have been unblocked, 

you are truly able to listen to your inner desires and needs. You are then 

communicating with yourself and thus are more able to communicate honestly 

and effectively with others.

Accepting your past by seeing the good

Low self-esteem is possibly the biggest problem of this generation. It can
show itself in people feeling small and worthless or conversely in people
behaving arrogantly and trying to dominate others - in an attempt for them
to feel better about themselves.

Yet self-esteem is just self-image - the way in which we see ourselves. 

If we look at our past and we think it was full of missed opportunities and 

empty moments then we are simply reinforcing a pre-existing negative 

self-image.  

However, if we choose to see our past as us doing the best we could with 

whatever character imperfections we then had, if we see our past as 

something we can learn and grow from - a teacher to guide us as to what 

character traits we need to improve, if we see ourselves as genuinely worthy, 

important, and with our own unique job in life - then our self-esteem rises.

The truth is that we are all unique. There is no one on this earth exactly 

like us. 

Step four (of 12) on the road to fulfilment is to learn to appreciate that we 

each have our own individual challenges in life, which will help make us 

better human-beings. Once we identify those particular challenges and work 

on improving our character traits, our self-image begins to change and our 

self-esteem rises.

Walking your walk - The holistic way to enhance self-esteem

The biggest enemy of motivation is depression. To be depressed is to be 

stuck in a rut. Sometimes, so badly, that you are not able to physically move.

When you feel that you are progressing in the right direction towards a 

satisfying and fulfilling goal, you feel motivated.

The secret to escaping depression is two-fold. Firstly, one can read or study 

an uplifting book, concept or idea. This can transform, inspire and motivate you 

to move forward positively in your own life. Secondly, one can move your body 

and walk, especially in a pleasant or natural environment. But if truth be told, 

any walking, dance, natural movement or exercise can promote health and 

well-being. When you are no longer in the same physical space of your 

depression and you get your body walking and moving - your ‘stuck-ness’ 

goes and your movement brings on positive feelings and natural inspiration 

and motivation.

Positive thinking...positive values...positive beliefs

'Think good and it will be good'.

Well I don’t know about you, but this sounds just too good to be true, and yet 

this maxim is easy to prove. 

The stress in our lives is often caused, not by an actual event - but by the 

THOUGHT of something bad happening (an event, which in fact often never 

takes place or at least is not as bad as we fear).

The fact is that we often can't control or forecast future situations, but we 

CAN learn to control our own thoughts. Whenever we think of something bad 

or unhappy that may happen, we start to worry, feel tense, nervous, stressed 

or unhappy.

However, now - yes, right now - I want you to think of something really lovely. 

Something real, e.g. like a gorgeous baby or person that you love. Or else 

something or some place that you'd love to be. Lying on a beautiful beach 

perhaps, in ideal temperatures and glorious and serene surroundings. Maybe 

a smile appears on your face as your body gradually feels calm and relaxed....

Step two (of 12) on the road to fulfilment, is to learn how to think good as a 

means to beginning to feel good.

Creating yourself anew through speech

It has been said that our biggest fear is not death or even pain - but that of speaking in 

public! 



Could this possibly be true? 



On examination, we can begin to understand what this fear of Public Speaking is really 

about. Our prime worry is of receiving a bad or negative reaction. What if we don't get 

applause? What if we foul up? What will people say about us? What DOES their 

reaction say about us as a person? What embarrassment!

I suggest that our deepest fear is that nobody really loves us. For when someone truly 

loves us, like a loving and caring parent, they don't stop loving us when we fail. 

Unfortunately, we don't always have the supportive parents, friends or audience that 

give us the unconditional love that we all need.

Our first step (of 12), therefore, on the road to fulfilment, is to give ourselves that love 

that we crave. By learning to speak words of love and care to both ourselves and 

others, we become a person filled with love. When we truly love ourselves and others, 

we feel fulfilled and our fear of failure quickly dissolves.